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20 Conversation Topics for Couples - Talking to your Partner
When two people start falling in love, they feel that it would never be possible to run out of things to say to each other. But sooner or later, a time comes when even the most devoted of couples may begin to wonder what else to talk about. Which is a pity really, since conversations are one of the most natural ways to know more about each other. So if you are raring to discover more about the new person in your life or simply need to break the monotony of years of marriage, here are a few conversation topics to get you started.
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1. Go back to the early days of your relationship and rediscover what drew you to each other. If you were the one to ask your partner to a date, ask your girlfriend or wife what made her say yes. Or if you were the one to agree to the date, ask what prompted him to choose you to go out with. TIP s: According to a recent UK survey published in The Guardian, falling out of love is the single most important reason for divorce. Having interesting and stimulating conversations greatly contributes to the strength of a marriage. The path-breaking book from Amazon, 'Tell Me Honey...2000 Questions for Couples' has 2000 questions across 75 categories including love, romance, sex and relationships that couples can ask each other, to come closer and keep the marriage strong. Reading this book will keep the magic alive as you discover new sides to each other. It's also available as an instant download ebook.
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3. Hobbies are one of the most dependable topics of conversation, no matter how long you have known each other. If you are new to the relationship, discuss hobbies that your partner loved as a child. On the other hand, if you have been married for several years, explore the possibility of doing something new with each other – like going for a hike on Saturdays or taking a salsa class for couples every Wednesday night. Pursuing mutual interests may help you to come closer to each other while doing something fun at the same time.
4. Vacations comprise one of the most remembered memories among humans. Ask your partner what was the best vacation he/she took before meeting you and why it was fun. You may be surprised to know that some of the most enjoyable vacations may have been weekend trips and not necessarily spent at exotic destinations. Moreover the conversation might offer you valuable pointers on what your partner likes doing best on holidays.
5. If you are taking a walk at the park, discuss the possibility of having pets someday and if you may, what would you choose to keep. Again if you are already the proud owners of a Labrador or an African parrot, you may think aloud on how having a pet has made a difference to your lives. The topic might seem mundane but it really sounds out issues of home, commitment and role of family in your lives.
6. Ask about your partner’s day after he/she returns home from work. They may be too tired to say much but the very fact that there is somebody to ask after them may speak volumes of your love and support.
7. Discussions on future make very interesting conversations, though you may need to tread lightly on touchy issues like kids or finances. Rather ask your partner to name five new things he/she would like to learn before turning forty/fifty/sixty and so on.
8. If you share common culinary passions, you are unlikely to ever run out of delicious things to say to each other. Discuss a new recipe that you may have come across a magazine or vow to try out the new Lebanese-themed restaurant in town on your next date.
9. Pore over old albums with your partner and you are certain to have a lot to talk about. Pick up clues from your partner’s attitude on what photos bring back happy memories and then ask him/her to tell you more about the time it was taken.
10. Choose one aspect of your partner’s physical make-up and compliment him/her on it. If you love the way dimples form on her cheeks when she laughs, say so. Or if your find the small arch of his lower back insanely attractive, tell him that. Your partner will not only be pleased with your words but the conversation could veer to what else you love about each other – something of which no couple can ever have enough.
11. Inject some fun into your conversations by having him/her tell you about the yuckiest thing they ever had to do. It may be something from their high school chemistry class or the first time they got completely sozzled with friends.
12. Invite your partner to talk about his or her family. Most people will fondly remember an autumn fishing trip with dad or counting starts on a late summer evening with mom. However if you know that your partner had an unhappy childhood, steer clear of this topic.
13. Ask your partner about the best teacher he/she had and why. It could be because the teacher could make the subject come alive like no one ever did or because the teacher taught the most important life lessons your partner ever came across.
14. Spice things up between you two by discussing an erotic fantasy or a crazy thought. However remember to keep it light and fun and don’t bring an element of stress by expecting the other person to act anything out.
15. Sharing pleasant memories about childhood can also make great conversation between couples. Tell your partner about the first time you spent a night away from home and whether it was a sleepover at a friend’s place or a school trip.
16. If the two of you could just drop whatever you are doing and do something fun, ask your partner what would it be. This would be an interesting way of knowing what your partner enjoys doing most, especially in your company.
17. Life goals and values evolve over time and something or someone which you thought your partner considered important may not be so any more. So ask your partner if there was one historical event that he/she could change, what it would be. If this is not the first time you are asking this question, you may be surprised by a different answer compared to the last time.
18. Talk about what you need to do more to make your partner feel loved and valued.
19. If you are sharing a home, discuss what material things are important to each of you. Prioritizing future purchases, especially expensive ones, might not seem a very romantic topic of conversation between couples but its lack can create problems in a relationship. So tackle these issues when there is still time.
20. If you want to know more about the values and ideals your partner holds high, ask about the kind of causes he/she would like to support and why.
21. Finally, don’t forget to tell your partner how much he/she means to you and about all the ways their love and mere presence has enriched your life.
Get away to a romantic destination, to spend time with each other, even if only a day's drive away.
Every relationship needs time away from the madding crowd. For those married, routines take over your life. You have to balance household chores with office work and if there are kids, you have to accommodate their schedules too. Even if you do manage to make time for each other, you’re often so tired and wound up, all you can do is either complain or talk about some mundane matter, turn out the lights and hit the sack. Those dating may be luckier as they don’t get so sucked into the routine, but they too need to make time from snatched dates that are often too short.
What every couple needs is some time away. To get away to a romantic destination, where your only priority is spending time with each other. It could be for a month, week, weekend or even just a day. The important thing is that you have to make time to do it at least once every few months.
Here are a few destination suggestions for snatching some private moments together. Based on the time you have available and your budget, find out the option most suitable to you. You could treat yourselves to something fancy or just focus on the quality of the time together. The location is secondary.
1. The beach
One of the all-time favorites for lovers to enjoy some time alone, is by the sea. The combination of sun, sand and surf is guaranteed to soothe you and put you in the mood for romance.
2. The mountains
If you want to take your loved one’s breath away…go in for some high altitude lovin’. Enjoy each other’s company amidst the scenic beauty of the mountains. Getting there might involve a considerable drive, but that’s just another opportunity to play your favorite FM station and catch up on some time together.
3. The lakes
Whisk your beloved off to a luxurious lakeside retreat. Soak in the serenity of calm waters, feed the geese, take a boat ride or just simply loll on the grassy banks of the lake.
4. Amusement park/ Water park
While this isn’t the most romantic option, if you’re looking for a chance to just let down your hair and have a good time, this one’s for you. If you’ve got just a day to enjoy yourselves, this is the ideal alternative.
5. Log cabin /Country cabin
Log cabins have such a quaint and rustic air to them that it makes you feel like cozying up to one another. The chirruping of birds and quiet countryside are like balm to your soul. It’s the ideal chance to relax and enjoy each other.
6. Fancy hotel
Treat yourself and your loved one to the best. If the budget is not a problem, get the works. Have the hotel pick you up in a limousine, get yourself the best package and live it up king-size. Indulge in all the hedonistic pleasures on offer, and heighten your romance.
7. Bed & breakfast
Book yourselves into a cozy B&B for the weekend. Make sure it is located in a nice, quiet place, where you can wake up late to a delicious breakfast. Over scrambled eggs, baked beans and toast, tell each other how lucky you are to be together!
8. Ski resort
If both of you love the skiing, get away on a weekend skiing trip. There’s something about pristine white ski slopes, roaring fires, roasting marshmallows and sipping cocoa that just does it for you!
9. Spas
Visit a popular spa in your area and book yourselves in for the day. Let your mind and body relax and once you’re through, you’ll be ready for some good old-fashioned loving.
10. Camping / Forest reserve
If you’re both into the wild outdoors, this one’s for you. Sleep under a canopy of stars. Commune with nature. Give each other bear hugs and if you hear a roar, just make sure it is one of you getting wild, and not your friendly neighborhood tiger!
11. Vineyards
Take a vacation to a vineyard and enjoy the pleasures it offers. Stomp around crushing grapes and savor wines from the cellar.
12. Cruise
Enjoy a 5-star cruise with all the luxuries it has to offer.
13. Hot air balloon ride
Take her up on cloud nine and romance her before you bring her back down to earth!
14. Picnic for two
Spirit her away to a secluded spot and enjoy a romantic picnic for two. Take a basket full of goodies along and don’t forget a bottle of wine! Feel the grass beneath your feet and savor the simple pleasures of life together.
Whether it is on a shoestring budget or an extravagance, what matters is that you have taken the time out to plan a romantic break for the two of you and have enjoyed some quality time together. Cheers to your togetherness!
Dating can be both invigorating and intimidating for both men and women. Making the first move can be tough. It is no longer a hard-and-fast rule, like it was in the bygone days, that only a guy can ask a girl out. In the present day scenario where we talk endlessly amongst the sexes, women’s liberation and the emancipation of women, there should be no scope for any inequality when it comes to dating or when you are building a long-term relationship with a girl. If a girl finds a boy attractive or interesting, she too can make the first move.
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Yes, women like their men to be chivalrous and charming at times like opening a door for them while entering a restaurant, offering them a seat before the man takes his position at the dining table etc. So after a romantic meal, when the bill arrives, do you always expect your man to pay? Wonder what happened to that talk about equality amongst the sexes etc.
Your talk on women’s liberation goes down the drain if you expect your boyfriend to foot the bill every time you go out on a date. Do not always expect the man to pay. Splitting the bill while dating should be accepted as a natural act by men and especially women. There is no written rule which says that the man has to shell out his money whenever you eat out or sip a coffee at the nearest café.
Matt, a freelance photographer in Paris feels that there is nothing more irritating than women who will not offer pay their share when they earn well enough.
"They also have this obvious habit of toying with the food in their own plates, leaving 90 percent uneaten and eyeing covertly what I had ordered!" Most of Matt’s dating experiences especially the ones which ended with a dinner or a dessert, have left him sceptical either about his date’s lack of appetite or her obvious shock when he has suggested the idea of splitting the bill.
Matt’s advice is, "Do not order food and drinks presuming we will pay. While we do not want you to be a glutton and stuff your mouth with both hands at the same time, we do like a girl with an appetite." He had an interesting anecdote to tell in this regard. "The real 'date from hell' wants to seem sophisticated and order by consulting only the right side of the menu. I once met somebody who ordered the most expensive sea food and then, when it arrived, she said ‘But today I am a vegetarian!"
If possible, decide and communicate in the initial stages of dating if you plan to split the bill. If the girl plans to pay her share, it sets everything in place. There is no need to get uptight and enter into a scuffle if he insists on paying but be prepared to be fair. Order what you would like to eat or drink and if not hungry, say so in the beginning, not after your order has been placed in front of you. Even if you are paying for your share, it is rude to not eat after ordering.
